Conversations with Poe: The Writer as Exhibitionist

SSPX0820Me:  One of the things that strikes me about the Internet is how readily some people share aspects of their lives they wouldn’t dare share with the stranger sitting next to them on the bus. 

Poe:  You ride the bus?

Me:  Don’t change the subject.  Look, I think every writer who wants to be read must have certain exhibitionist tendencies.  I’m not talking about flashing private parts in front of strangers — I’m talking about “the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself,” as my dictionary defines it.  Otherwise, why send out your work at all?  

Poe:  Well, some writers may not care about the attention.  Maybe they just want to get paid.  

Me:  Okay, if that’s true, then why publish under your own name?  You could send everything out under a pseudonym and avoid the spotlight entirely. 

Poe:  Some writers do. 

Me:  Yes, but most don’t.  Most writers — or musicians, or artists, or marionette performers, whatever — seek some level of attention and accolade for their work.  They’re saying, “Hey, world, look at what I did here!”    

Poe:  All right.  I’ll accept that.  What’s your point? 

Me:  I’m not sure I have one.  I’m just expressing some concerns.  The Internet has made it incredibly easy to not only share your work with a wider audience, but to share every aspect of your personal life with the wider world as well — whether it’s who you’re dating or what you had for breakfast.  I think every writer/artist/performer has to find their own comfort level with that, but the thing I struggle with the most is that person’s family.  Are these people on board with their photos/names/intimate details of their lives being made public? 

Poe:  I suppose that’s up to the family to decide. 

Me:  But what about children?  When I see someone putting photos of their children online — I’m not talking about Facebook, or a closed social network, but a public Web page that anyone in the world can see — I wonder if it’s appropriate.  Even if they give their consent, is it right?  Maybe they should be shielded from the public eye until they reach adulthood, and then they can decide for themselves if they want to tell the world what they had for breakfast each morning.  

Poe:  So where do you come down on this? 

Me:  Well, I’m a writer.  Of course I’m at least part-exhibitionist.  But I’m of the belief that my family is off-limits except in the most general sense.  They didn’t sign up for to be supporting actors in my writing life.  So you won’t see me posting photos of my kids on here.  Or hardly ever even mentioning their names.  I can’t help but talk about them at least in general, because it’s my life too, but they deserve to decide for themselves how public they want to be with their lives.  Here’s the problem, though:  You no longer have full control.  Other people will take photos of you or your family and post them online without your consent.  It’s only going to get worse, too.  In this era of YouTube, social media, and reality television, good luck trying to control your level of privacy. 

Poe:  You’re not exactly sounding a hopeful note. 

Me:  I guess it depends on how much you value your privacy. 

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I’ve got an Edgar Allan Poe action figure in my writing office at home, complete with a miniature raven on his shoulder.  After a while, I started talking to him, sharing my concerns about writing, family, and life in general.  One day, amazingly, he started talking back. 

Dispatches from the Frontlines of Fatherhood: Love for All

My three-year-old son has a unique kind of logic.  You can’t always follow it, but it’s sure fun to go along for the ride.  Here’s a conversation the other morning between he and my wife:

Son:  I love everyone!  I love everyone in the whole world. 

Mom:  Oh, that’s very nice, honey.

Son:  Even you, Mommy.

Mom:  Oh. Don’t you mean especially me?

Son:  I love my teeth.  I brush them.

Mom:  That’s very good.

Son:  It’s good to brush your teeth.

How Online Are You? A Writer’s Scale of Internet Engagement

On Saturday, I went to the coast for a “Writing Technology Day” with a bunch of  professional writers, where I spent the majority of it helping friends with things like using WordPress and putting stories up on Kindle.  It was also an opportunity for me to brainstorm and bounce ideas off some sharp minds about what it means to be a writer in the digital age.  It was fun, and it was one of those rare times when my day job (I’m an Instructional Technologist for a university, where I’m chiefly responsible for supporting the online classes) intersected with my writing life. 

One of the things I got to thinking about was how online a writer should be.  Here’s a little scale I created so that writers can see where they fall in the continuum: 

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I do think every writer should have at least a moderately updated web page, with contact info and credits, but beyond that I think it depends a lot on mindset and goals.  Personally, I think if you’re serious about being a professional writer, then you really can’t afford not to explore some of the opportunities the Internet provides.  But it’s always a question of how much time you’re willing to commit and how much you enjoy it.  Writers like Cory Doctorow, John Scalzi, Jay Lake, Michael Stackpole, and Jeff Vandermeer are people I can think of right away that are on the high end of this scale, and they are all doing different things well.  Check out their sites and you’ll quickly see that these are writers making heavy use of all the digital tools at their disposal. 

However, I’d actually rank someone like Neil Gaiman — who has a million followers on Twitter, and has one of the most visited blogs on the Internet — lower on the scale even though his Internet traffic is off the charts.  He’s certainly engaged with the online community, but not to the extent of the other writers I mentioned.  His enormous web traffic is coming almost entirely from his work.  If you write bestsellers, and if you win major awards like the Newbery, you’re going to have a Web presence.  You don’t even have to go looking for it. 

To me it’s a reminder that if you want to be a fiction writer first, and not a blogger first, make sure the vast majority of your writing time and effort is devoted to your fiction.  To prevent the Internet from becoming a major time sink, you might draw up a chart figuring out where your writing time goes, as I did: 

Percentage Activity Hours Per Week
40% Writing fiction 8
35% Reading
5% Email 1
5% Website updating/blogging 1
5% Twitter/Facebook/social networking 1
5% Marketing/mailing 1
5% Internet reading/surfing 1

 

With a day job and a family, I aim to spend 20 hours a week on writing-related activities.  If I’m spending more than 5 hours of my 20 hours a week on anything outside of writing and reading, then I figure my balance is out of whack.  And yes, I do figure reading into my writing-related activities.  I don’t know how you can be a writer if you’re not reading heavily.  It’s our creative fuel. 

I don’t think there’s any right answer here.  If you have professional aspirations as a writer, then you should probably be at least at level 2.  Anything less probably hurts you when an editor goes out and Google’s your name — which pretty much happens automatically these days when a publisher is considering your work.  Does the writer have a Web presence?  If so, is it a good one or a bad one?  Are they out there making themselves look like an idiot?

Beyond that, it’s a question of how much time you’re willing to commit versus what you think you’ll get out of it.  If it’s fun, that makes it easier.  I actually enjoy posting on Facebook and Twitter ocassionally, but I have to be careful or the Web sucks me in like a black hole.  Take this blog post.  I could have spent this past hour working on fiction, but I wrote this instead.  Was it time well spent? 

For me, it was, because it falls within the guidelines I set for myself based on all the criteria I mentioned — criteria which could very well change just as my career does.  But every writer will answer that question differently.   My advice to writers is to 1) be aware of where you are on the chart, 2) and be conscious of the choices you’re making with your time.

Check out the 10’ers

The 10’ers is a livejournal community of young adult and middle grade authors whose books are debuting in 2010.  Lots of great stuff on the site.  I recently joined, and you can find my introductory bio here:  http://community.livejournal.com/10_ers/322902.html.  I might cross post there from time to time, if the subject matter also seems appropriate for that site.

There’s over 80 other authors listed on the site.    Check them out!